Ep 17 – Confessions of a Mormon Swinger Part 1

Written by on June 10, 2013

Glenn interviews a swinger who shares his story of how he and his wife decided to become swingers after having both been active Mormons for most of their lives.


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  1. better unsaid   On   June 10, 2013 at 2:43 pm

    I can understand why you interviewed this guy but why you posted it for the world to hear is embarrassing. It was creepy, the voice masking sounded bizarre. glen, ive enjoyed your work at ME and beyond but this interview belonged in the trash heap. This story may have a place on the swingers channel, but infants on thrones? Not your finest work, glen.
    Although, there was some comedy, like this gem from your guest, ya wouldn’t get with the tall blonde because of her politics, she didn’t like Obama, so instead I paid for sex with a prostitute.

      • Glenn   On   June 10, 2013 at 5:03 pm

        There’s a Swinger’s Channel?
        But you raise an intereting question for me. What is “Infants on Thrones” to you as a listener? The whole idea behind Infants on Thrones for us was stated very well by Randy and Bob in our Introduction podcast. We are essentially a group of guys who were raised Mormon but have stepped away from it in one way or another. But rather than setting ourselves up as experts in anything, we present ourselves as infants sitting on these pseudo-thrones of podcasting-voice-authority. We try not to take ourselves too seriously. We are all still exploring and learning and growing. So why wouldn’t an exploration into swinging by an ex-mormon fit the scope of IOT? I’m interested to know why you felt like it doesn’t belong here.

      • 3GrandKeys   On   June 14, 2013 at 5:07 am

        I think it was very interesting and well done and the voice masking was…well it was voice masking. I think where subject matter may have felt a little off was in that this guy was exploring swinging after already leaving the church. At first I was on the edge of my seat wondering how an active Mormon couple would have ever been able to rationalize swinging with other active Mormon couples and was there some crazy secret underground LDS swingers club or something? But when it turned out the story was about ex-mo’s I was a bit disappointed. The ties back into Mormonism’s impact on the whole thing were there to a degree, but didn’t seem all that unique to Mormonism. Pick anyone disaffected from any religion that teaches abstinence and a similar story would emerge. I guess I’d find a story like “the primary president who experimented with hallucinogens…after leaving the church” or “the EQ president who started a fight club…after leaving the church” to be in the same boat. Maybe really interesting in some ways, but not quite as compelling as the quirky/weird stuff that emerges within the realm of active/believing LDS culture. I can see why some listeners might have felt it was a bit off, but I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. Still a good listen.

      • Guest   On   April 14, 2014 at 4:35 pm

        This exactly. I’d find the podcast much more compelling if you managed to track down Christy, the active swinger who posted on NOM and a few other DAMU forums a few years ago.
        Frankly, I find the idea of active LDS swingers to be a bit too apocryphal. I’ve heard rumors about a group of people in either Davis County or southeast Salt Lake County who are active swingers but deep underground. I’m highly skeptical they exist. Once the secret grows beyond one or two people, the odds that the secret will leak out becomes highly probable after awhile.

      • Openminded   On   October 25, 2016 at 12:42 am

        I just listened to podcast and noticed your comment about the reality of LDS swingers. I just wanted to say that my wife and I (active members) have attended Meet and Greet swinger parties and a more risque Halloween swingers type of party in a home last year to see what the other couples were doing and just to meet fun friends who liked to dance at clubs, etc. We quickly learned that there were many members where active swingers…not sure if all were active in church, however. There was one young wife of a couple at one Saturday night party that actually said she had to still prepare a lesson for church the next morning…like their activities that night were no problem with their church relationship. It’s a fascinating revelation that this was happening…but true.

  2. TheNewCitizen   On   June 10, 2013 at 11:12 pm

    Very personal and sincere interview. It takes a great amount of courage to open up about this experience. I appreciated this story not because I’ve been at that position, but because it is so different from me. And yet, going through some kind of struggle is something everyone on this site can recognize and find in themselves. It might not be with open marriage but any other issue.
    I found this story very interesting, to say the least. I think it belongs on this site, for people like me and different from me.

  3. kc   On   June 11, 2013 at 5:58 pm

    This podcast was very interesting and uncomfortable to listen to. I appreciate the courage it must have taken for this man to tell his story and I found it informative, shocking, scary and fascinating . I had always heard that jealousy was the big problem it seems like he over came this and his marriage is fine which is good.
    Thanks for the podcast.

  4. bodona   On   June 11, 2013 at 9:41 pm

    This was fascinating. Thanks to your guest for his willingness to share. I especially enjoyed the final 5 minutes where he talked about lessons learned. His story was very enlightening.
    Well done.

  5. AW   On   June 11, 2013 at 10:50 pm

    Great podcast. I learned a lot. I don’t think I could ever do swinging, but I now better understand why someone would do it. As Mormons many of us missed out on exploring our sexuality with different partners and just because you are married doesn’t mean that the curiosity goes away.

  6. kc   On   June 12, 2013 at 3:22 pm

    For part two there are a few things I was wondering about. How does he think this experience helped his marriage or did he think his tale is a cautionary one? Did he feel that he or his wife was ever able to get the emotions and intimacy out of sex with others, in other words I wasn’t clear if they were ever able to have sex with other people and make it just sex and still have the intimacy with each other?

  7. neo   On   June 2, 2015 at 12:33 am

    Great interview! I really enjoyed the honesty. I agree the voice-masking was a little creepy and off-putting, though obviously it was done for a reason. Just wish it could sound more like a natural voice, just different from the interviewee’s own voice! (I just gave you an idea for a great invention, you could be rich this time next year) 🙂
    And I disagree with whoever said that this interview doesn’t belong on this podcast. I think the person who said that was just uncomfortable with the subject matter, which isn’t surprising, it’s obviously not for everyone, and I felt some discomfort at certain points, but that’s not a reason to start censoring the discussion.
    Anyways, thanks for another interesting piece.

  8. Rs   On   August 14, 2018 at 4:10 am

    My husband and I are at the point that we are discussing about having a relationship similar to that. ( swapping in front of each other) I’ve been thrue all that feelings that he describes.
    Since we first talked about it and start fantasize we are so arause and sexy are 10 times more exciting to the point that we are having sex 3 times a day and sometimes we couldn’t wait to get home.
    We are very active in church, temple, son in a mission etc.
    but like he said, we think if are consente by both sides it’s not an adultery and all the prophets have done it.
    And if will be legal and the law permitted till today most of us Mormons still today will be having a polygamist marriages (don’t we?) you could think you don’t but a lot of your friends and leaders will do it!
    So, one of reasons that holds me back (I’m the wife) are that I always thought that sex bring people close and eventually one of us could get to evolved emotionally envolved with some one else to the point that we loose our marriage.
    And the reason that holds my husband is that he doesn’t know if he can take it to see me with another man even if it is a very good friend of him (from church also) the other couple that we have talk about it with it and consider doing together.
    I don’t considere doing way from each other like they did because it’s going to liberate to much intimacy and freedom so I’m my consept it’s easy to develop deep feelings that just stay in the act!
    Forgive my English
    We are from Brazil and we live in Brazil

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